I remember being on an airplane flight many years ago to attend a business meeting. At the time I was 29 years old. In the seat next to me was a very young man (probably 18-19 years old) and we began a conversation. In those days I was very very very far from the Lord. I did not attend church (except for Christmas and Easter), I never opened the Bible (I didn’t even have one) and I did not pray, except perhaps for when I was in trouble. This young man, his name was James, drew me into a very deep (and unexpected) conversation. I found myself telling him my whole life story. He was a good listener; he asked very probing but caring questions and I was amazingly open with my answers. I had recently left my husband and was, in fact, living with another man. In short, my life was a mess.
One single Bible verse changed the entire direction of my life.
James, without projecting an attitude of judging me at all, asked me this question: “Do you know that God hates divorce”? *(Malachi 2:16) Friends, I remember it like it was yesterday. It was as if an arrow had PIERCED my heart. James quickly added that God “does not hate me” … he hates divorce.
Later in my walk with God, I came to learn another Bible verse which reads thus: Hebrews 4:12 – For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. And THAT, friends, is what happened to me that day on the plane. In that airplane, 30,000 feet up in the air, talking with a stranger who was many years younger than myself, I first heard the Word of The Lord. I now believe it was “A divine appointment”. Shortly after that, God moved the pieces of my life so that eventually I heard the good news of the gospel, and I gave my heart and life to the Lord.
WHY am I telling you all this? Well, this evening, I had an opportunity to hear from Dr. Warren Farrell who was commenting on “The Boy Crisis” …. and that children need their father about equally to their mother in the case of divorce,”.
… and so today, I am reminded afresh how living, active, timeless and timely God’s word is. God certainly does not condemn us, He loves us, but he wants the best for us and he provided the family model to give HIs children the best chance of living a productive, blessed and abundant life.
If you are contemplating divorce, PLEASE think very carefully about what you about to do. Learn FIRST how Divorce affects children … it “may” help you to choose the Road Less Traveled.
I paid a very big price for my choices 35 years ago. It’s a long and unfortunate story, but my actions cost me in ways that I never dreamed of. God has certainly restored me to wholeness, BUT what I want for everyone is that they draw close to God, trust Him with their situation and obey His word. Blessings follow not just for Mom and Dad, but certainly for the children in their household for it is their best chance of having a wonderful life.
May God help us to listen, and may our nation turn back to Him.
* Malachi 2:16 For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with wrong,” says the Lord of hosts. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”